I have no pictures for this post. I figure anyone who reads this also follows me on instagram or is my friend on Facebook and therefor you've already seen any pictures I would have to put here. I know this is such a "Bah-Humbug" attitude. When did blogging become so hard for me?
I am merely here to empty a few thoughts that have been swimming around in my head. They are all negative. So stop reading now!
I suppose I am just recording these thoughts for future reference. Several times I have gone back to read my blog posts from Scott's last deployment and the honesty of my feelings and trials have helped me a lot this go'round. Inevitably, we will be doing this again. (Hopefully while we are stationed in a nice place that I enjoy and feel safe to live husbandless) So, to my future, single-military-wife self:
*Suddenly, every good husband doing good husbandly things (sweeping the garage, taking a crying baby from his wives arms, hanging Christmas lights, picking up his kid from preschool, etc...) all make my heart go pitter-patter. Don't read into this the wrong way. I'm not romantically swooning over every man I see. It's just that I've become hyper-sensitive to the little things that I'm missing. My spouse is a good one. One who does all those good husbandly things and more. I now realize how attractive that is in a man. For example, several days ago I was picking Henry up from a friends house. When I pulled up to the house, said friends father was tinkering away in their garage. He then came out and greeted me as he walked me to the door and just inside their home the little baby (about a week older than Will) was hanging out on the floor and the father picked him up and began playing with his baby boy. My heart swelled up. My eyes swelled up. It was all I could do to keep the flood gates closed before Henry and I got to the car and I could release and weep. Poor Henry just asks, "Mom, are you hurt or just feeling sad again?"
*Why are there so many Christmas songs about loved ones being away? I know I'm spoiled and have never had to deal with this particular trial before which is why I've never picked up on the multitude of sad Christmas songs. One in particular that I've heard multiple times is Merry Christmas, Darling by The Carpenters. Sheesh. I sob every time.
*Babies are hard. My little Will is stinkin' cute, but man he is high maintenance. I was really wanting to go to a super fun Christmas party tomorrow night. A pretty exclusive party for cool people in Utah. It was only a possibility because my sister is a cool and popular blogger and she RSVP'd +1 for me. It was so thoughtful and kind of her to invite me along and I thought I could make it work until tonight. As Will screamed for the last 2 of his waking hours I realized I had been reaching for a dream. That sounds a bit dramatic, and it is, but I could really use a night out with fun and inspiring adults. I thought for a few minutes about buying some formula and just wishing my mom luck with Will for the night. That's not fair to her, she already does so much for my kids and I. Plus, I've been in this boat before and once I start formula, the convenience factor is just too great and before I know it my milk is dry and I can't nurse anymore. I really, really want to nurse Will for a full year, at least. I do love it - most of the time. I just have to remember that having a baby takes a year of your life. For real. The entire first year is about baby and not you and that is okay. It's just hard sometimes. I miss being able to easily (and without guilt) pass the baby responsibility over to my husband.
And that, my friends, is a big, long, sappy rant.